Buying a House is a Lot Like Dating

When it comes to buying a house a person can go through lots of emotions. Excitement, fear, anger, sadness, or maybe (but hopefully not) nausea.

At first it’s awkward

You don’t know what you’re looking for. You go out and see lots of houses, comparing one to another. You like some things about one house and another thing about the next. You compare each in your mind while saying things like “I wish it had a bigger backyard” or “the location could be a bit better.”

At this point it’s awkward. You don’t know what you are looking for or you know you haven’t found it yet. Frustration could set in. “I’ll never find the right one… this is hopeless.”

The awkwardness doesn’t stop there. At this point, your friends are buying houses. Everyone seems to be finding a house but you. “What’s wrong with me?” “Do I have a problem?”

Of course, we know this isn’t the case. Like anything it takes time. You aren’t the problem


Quantity over quality or quality over quantity

Everything about me wants to shout QUALITY, but that’s not always the case. From my experience, it’s best to look at lots of houses. From looking at multiple homes you can start to decide what you like about each one. From there you are able to piece together what could be your “dream home” and what you can do later.

At the risk of putting my foot in my mouth, I think it’s best to leave the rest of this comparison to your imagination.


Timing is everything

Timing is everything. If it’s meant to happen, it will, at the right time for the right reasons.

This right here is the hard one. In the house search, there will be times where you miss out on “the one”. Maybe you couldn’t see the house before another offer was placed. Maybe you weren’t able to get your offer together fast enough to beat someone else.


You get your heart broken

You loved the house, but the market didn’t love you. Your dream house went to someone else. You knew you would have been able to make that house your home. You felt that it was already your home!

Where can one go from here. It seems like nothing will live up to the first house you fell in love with. But remember time heals all and there is always another one out there.


At the end of the day, it’s hard work

Going through the ups and downs of the home search will be exhausting. It’s a time commitment and something that can be emotionally draining. In most cases this is the largest purchase you’ll ever make. That’s a decision that isn’t to be taken lightly. It takes a lot of time to make the decision that will change your life, hopefully in the best way possible.


It’s you’re lucky you’ll find the one

It is exactly what you had been looking for. The house of your dreams. It has just the right amount of character while still modern enough that you feel at home. It makes all of the long days of open houses, rejected offers, and the feelings you’d never find the right one all worth it.


A house won’t always love you back

A house like a relationship takes constant work.

Nothing is perfect. Remember to look past the fancy exterior and see what character lies beneath. There will always be something that needs fixing or extra work to make right. You can love your house but it won’t always love you back. Things will break or stop working at the most inconvenient times. Remember that like in life anything that is worth it, is worth the work.


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